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Mommy has to have a life too!

Wednesday

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We all know as hard working individuals, 
that we don't often take the right amount of time to care for ourselves. 
Day in and out I'm literally taking care of others, 
out in the world and at home.
Don't get me wrong, I love it!
 But in between time when there is no one to take care of you, you have to take care of yourself. 

So guys like I never go anywhere. I'm not exaggerating, lol! I haven't met many people nearby and I get so shy to go places alone!
I been here 6 months and I have quite frankly grown out of being bored all the time. 
While I like being bored (lbs), 
I just need some fun every now and then. What human doesn't?
It's good for you, and its not healthy to always be alone!
So over the weekend this mommy here stepped out of her shell.

Top Secret Dance Fitness


I went to a sweat it out (twerk) dance fitness class.
All year I've wanted to go and I am so happy that I did!
The instructor, Jamel, is an instructor from Miami that takes this class from there to Atlanta, to Houston, New Orleans and other places.

{the aftermath}

Now I haven't danced in YEARS! You hear me?! lol
I've been dancing for as long as I can remember,
 and I used to dance in high school so I wasn't worried about that part. 
But baaaaby I thought for sure that I would pass out or something. 
Honestly though, it wasn't bad at all and I had a ball!! 
I even stepped my shy behind in the middle of the crowd and performed.
 Needless to say I think I still got it!
And I have been sore as ever!

Lipstick & Mingle: All Pink Edition

As you may or may not know,
 my very own sister is one of the most dedicated entrepreneuHERs that I know.
Marketing, branding, lipstick line, events, and the list goes on!
She put together a self care brunch for quite a few wonderful ladies that she's met along the way.
We all dressed pretty in pink and joined one another at 
Southern Gentlemen's.
It was a very nice and peaceful place for brunch. 
The menu changes and was kind of short, none the less, this salad got the business (lol).

Along the way Terrace had folders put together with a few self care reflection tools.
I surely missed my baby but I definitely enjoyed being able to do something for me for once.
Special thanks for having me sister! 
You can check out more about the brunch as well as her services and upcoming events below!

We all work hard and do everything necessary to survive.
But we're not living to work we're working to live.
So live your life and have a little fun for yourself every now and then.
It's good for you👍


Jo Jo Is Life

Monday

I don't know how many parents may be aware of JoJo Siwa, but lately I've been hearing all great things about her {lol}
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She's a young American, singer, dancer, actress and youtube personality! And we all know how our kids love youtube these days!
My child absolutely adores JoJo!

I've seen this young lady appear on a few things but never knew how big she's gotten,especially to the youth.

Every other day it's "JoJo Siwa"
"JoJo Bow"
And any giant bow is a JoJo bow
I must admit though she has some pretty cool bows!
Girls' JoJo Siwa Glitter Bow Hairclip - Silver
(Available in Claire's)

So Riley has been needing some shoes, and you'll never guess what kind I came across!
That's right, JoJo Siwa!
I would've never thought they had shoes and I was more than excited to take her to get them.

When I picked her up from daycare I was so excited to tell her and once I did she squirmed all through her seat, with an uncontrollable smile on her face!
As she kisses my hand she smiles and says
"I'm just so happy, I can't believe it! Your'e the best mommy ever because I love JoJo!"





Check out our trip to the store at the link provided above or click "Ry Vlogs" in the menu tab!



Making her day always makes mine! 
Be sure to like & subscribe & give Riley a BIIIIIIG thumbs up!
Until next time!




Break through not down

Wednesday




Sometimes I think to myself and wonder was this the right move for me! 
Why do I ask myself?
 I’ve come in contact with a few battles or two, but who doesn’t right? 
But now that I’ve let go of my moms boob and became 100% independent in everything I’ve become flustered.

I moved to Georgia for a better life, which by the way has been the best but being situated is where it gets complicated!
Upon moving I was a participant of the Housing Choice Voucher program which is commonly known as “section 8.” 
Section 8 is a government funded housing project that assists with rental payments and utility assistance if needed for those at a certain income level.
 Now as you may think sometimes to receive any government “benefits” you have to be doing little to nothing right? Although they make you feel that way that is not true!
 There was never a time I worked less than 40 hours a week in over 4 years and their assistance to me was a $62-monthly payment. 
Although I was very grateful for that. 
I was always told “use it as something to fall back on.” 
Each time I’m thinking fall back? That’s the last thing I want to do. 
Yes it comes in handy for when you may fall on hard times and lose your job. 
But being the hardworking and dedicated woman that I am, I never planned to
 “fall on hard times.” 

Moving here, they gave me the biggest run around just to end up telling me they can’t afford to pay for where I’ve chosen to reside. 
I was never too excited to be on this "assistance" from jump,. because our focus was to always
 break generational curses! 
And to be honest I was embarrassed to even say it!
But it sounded good at the time and it was beneficial for the situation that I was coming out of!


 Long story short, because I came here to seek opportunities and better our lives. 
To give my daughter somewhere she could grow and prosper, & that was the last thing that I would allow to hold me back. 
So with only two weeks left until my last extension expired, I decided to let go! 
No thank you! You can have your assistance. You will not get all up in my business, bank accounts, assets, pass false judgement & tell me what’s acceptable to reside only to provide me with $62 a month! 
No thank you! Kiss my ass!!



So now it' up to me to work hard and make this life that the two of us have been dreaming of for so long!

 Before moving Riley here I applied for childcare assistance! Here it is August and I’ve been told that I don’t qualify because without me being in one of many “priority groups” (domestic, homeless, special needs child, grandparent adoption, work min. 24hrs/week,etc) that I over qualified lol! 
Whaaaaaat? 
So you mean to tell me although I pay all this rent, drive all this way, work all these hard hours and single parent that i can’t get help?
 It’s like they set it up so we want to fail and want to need them.
 They want us to be down bad before they help us.
 Instead of actually helping those who are actually trying their hardest to help themselves. 
But I don’t need them and I definitely won’t beg, lie, scheme or scam to get help from a bunch of nosey, inconsiderate strangers who could care less about us. 

It's pretty sad that one should even have to go to such depths when it took two to create.
I shouldn't have to seek anyone else's financial assistance when the other "parental" party claims to have so much money! 
I now have picked up every off day I have, to make sure that not just myself but that Riley never falls short of anything!!!
 I shouldn’t have to do it alone, no one should. 
Is it hard? 
Most days but this love and bond out weighs anything I could ever encounter!



All this to say, don’t let what others won’t do stop you or affect the way you do anything. 
You have got to move with the beat of your drum and if your beat is picking up you’ve got to pick it up.
 Push hard and go harder!
My drums have turned in to snares and my mind has been all over trying to catch this beat.
 It took my denial to feel like I had something worthy of blogging about!
Breaking generational curses are,
 not going through, doing, or dealing with what your parents, & their parents and so forth dealt with. 
Go do things different than them. 
Seek opportunities they wish they could have! 
Work harder than their bodies have allowed. 

God's doing a new thing and he’s giving me all the things I never wanted in the first place! But he told me that’s not where I stop that’s just the leap across the puddle. 
If it’s one thing I’ve learned it’s how to make it! 
And that it always gets greater later!


Change Is Hard

Monday

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Soon as I moved in I automatically did the number one thing I couldn’t wait to do, and that’s post my affirmations, manifestations and goals.
 At first I wasn’t doing them much but lately I’ve been doing them
 and doing it like I mean it! 
Responding to myself and actually putting my mind to the test. 

So lately I’ve been feeling in this trance.
 I haven’t been able to sleep. I literally get up every hour on the hour. 
I haven’t had an appetite so I haven’t been eating and my fluid intake hasn’t been what it was either.
 I have no energy and I’m nothing but sleepy but I can’t rest!
And I haven’t been able to breathe, literally. Like having panic attacks on the highway.
So I got hooked on this song “dear future me” and I listen to it everyday.
Pandora wasn’t playing it enough so I downloaded it.
And at this point it’s playing at least 10 times a day minimum!
So I’m driving home from work one evening and I’m playing it, over and over and over for at least the first 20 min.
 So I’m feeling it more and more by then!
Starting it over further from the end each time like there was a message I was decoding.
And guess what believe it or not, there was!
Now some may believe the feeling or not but it’s a first time experience for me.
 I haven’t been able to eat, sleep or breathe because I’m hungry for the wrong things!
God forced me to fast until I realized what I should, and can do!!
Over the past 24 hours I’ve spoken to what seems to be two great Kings who gave me insight on the 2 things I want,
 a career and a home of my own!
 It gave me a good push of motivation!.
 It’s like God said It’s time to pour out those things that are holding you down so you can realize how to move forward.
I've been asking for the next step, wondering and couldn’t for the life of me figure it out.
 Always listen to your intuition, it's there to guide you!

Hope this encouraged someone. I have now taken my next step to my future and look forward to sharing along the way!

Until next time!!!

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Hang On!

Wednesday

HEY THERE QUEENS & KINGS! 

Please forgive me for I have neglected my blog! 
These past few weeks have been very exhausting for me.
But none the less I feel as complete as can be.


On June 11, 2018 my baby girl graduated kindergarten and was promoted to the first grade! She was given awards for her marvelous grades & test scores. Not only did she past her test, she exceeded her goals for the year. That is correct. My baby tested off the charts.


On June 12, Riley finally became a Georgia peach. The both of us couldn't be any more happier. The moment we arrived we signed our lease and tried to adapt to our changes.
I will be the first to admit and say that these adjustments have not been a piece of cake. I haven't even had to time to enjoy any cake (lol). 



I've been on go mode for the past month and haven't had the time to keep up with myself. One morning I'm dropping her off & all the uneasiness that has been hovering over me began to surface. I'm the kind of person it takes a while for me to come to terms with my emotions and realize how I feel, & what is exactly causing it. I was so busy, working, traveling, packing moving, unpacking, and working more that my mind & body were off track.

As I cried that morning, it was like the tears were projecting my worries.

"did you make the right move?"
"what will you do now?"
"who's going to look after Riley?"
"how will you balance life?"
Any fear or worry was falling all over my lap. 

So when I'm feeling down I resort to Jessica Reedy's, Transparent album and listen to "I Know" which references Jeremiah 29:11. Following that song the next one on the track really spoke to me. Her mother joined the track and the title is "Hold On."

"Hold on just a little while longer, be strong, because it's going to get better, don't quit"

Everything I endure is all a test of faith, & I wasn't created to worry or fear & God made sure he reminded me.

Here I was past obstacle number one, overwhelmed & filled with fears, worries, what ifs, & "I wonders." 
This move has been life changing for us, adapting has been a challenge, and coming to terms that I am 100% on my own has been a challenge as well. Not being able to have the convenience of my mother to be there for my baby. This shit is real lol but it's been worth it!


We gain victory through our faith & defeat the enemy!
(1John 5:14)



27 & Wingin' It

Friday

27 & Wingin' It
{I'm not yet 27, but I will be in 5 days (June 6)}


Moms always taught me to be up to any challenge. I accepted the Bloggers challenge made by Passionate Woman CS for bloggers to make fun facts, confessions & lessons! Check it out!

FUN  FACTS
  1. I like to dance..almost anywhere & anytime 
  2. I love to sing ( just turn the music up so you can't hear me) lol
  3. I want a house in the country w/a white picket fence 
  4. I love seafood..shrimp, lobster, crab legs, craw-fish, crab cakes "you naaaame it"
  5. I am good at sewing. I taught myself to sew pants, skirts and shirts with no pattern
  6. My dream job was a firefighter (#3 in Confessions is why I'm not) lol
  7. I want 3 children..total.
  8. I like to swim

CONFESSIONS
  1. I think I like someone (lol)
  2. I'm scared of heights
  3. I'm claustrophobic (why I could never be a fire fighter)
  4. I'm a Gemini, yes the two different personalities are true, but the personality that stays the same is the one that loves deep.
  5. I'm spoiled...THERE I FINALLY SAID IT
  6. Everyone around me thinks I'm conceited when I'm just aware of my beauty.
  7. Everyone thinks I'm mean but I always come from a place of love (no matter how it comes off)
  8. Once my mind is made, it can't be changed.
  9. I am passionate, protective and crazy over my daughter!

LESSONS
  1. Be careful who you have children with! 
  2. Everything isn't for everyone, if it works for them..or you then that is all that matters.
  3. Always do whats best for you, no matter how bad you think you want it! If it doesn't feel right it isn't right!
  4. Treat others how you want to be treated.
  5. ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS love yourself!!!
  6. Need those who need you!! Can't stress that enough, those leeches, and Debbie downers, lumps on the logs, leave them to themselves.
  7. P.US.H.....Pray Until Something Happens! It works!
  8. Be honest at all times. I don't know about any of you but it bothers me to keep the truth. The truth shall set you free!!
  9. Work hard, play harder.
  10. You're never too old to learn!
UNTIL NEXT TIME!

Mommy Blues

Thursday

Mommy Blues


There are different shades of blue. To me, they all speak different languages. The shades are saying different things. Lately I've had the mommy blues and the blue I've been seeing is royal blue. To me Royal isn't too far from midnight but it has it's own little shine to wear it isn't too dark.

What is "mommy blues?" 
You ever heard of postpartum depression? Of course you have, in case you don't know the technical definition,
"depression suffered following childbirth due to hormonal changes & psychological adjustment to mothering."
Where as "mommy blues" is the psychological adjustment to not being able to mother. That's the best way I can put it.

Transitions can be very hard to adjust to mentally. The habits & instincts that were created as your new lifestyle has automatically slowed down. It's hard being at the end of the map and parenting through a phone screen. There are hugs that need to be given, needed kisses, and some well owed ass whooping to Ms Riley lol. No, but its hard not having that one to make you laugh all day, someone to teach, and yell at. Riley even helps me cook, with the laundry and cleaning up around the house. I have had a hard time just sitting around outside of work. 

The summer is coming up and some children will be venturing off with their other parents and some mommies may be going through the same thing. I'll tell you all about my "mommy-venture" to clear my "mommy-blues" and a few things that could help you too.

Prosperity Tour
I joined my sister, Terrace for an entrepreneur prosperity tour, run by the beautiful and fabulous Dr. Stacia & Ariana Pierce. (@Aritheheiress @StaciaPierce).
All I can say is, phenomenal! They touched subjects on social media marketing as well as manifesting! Great way to occupy my mind and actually invest my time in learning new and better ways to not only improve my life, but my business, and finances. All things in the long run that'll pave a way for Riley.

Buckhead Nail & Toe Spa
I finally was able to do what I've been seeing on the television for so long. I was able to relax and enjoy a deluxe pedicure while having glasses of wine. Every momy either needs, loves or deserves a glass of wine. The long hours I work caring for other I know I needed that. Doing things for yourself can help you to feel better about yourself. So thank you for the great service and such a beautiful and relaxing scene. Even though they almost refused to serve me wine (lol). They didn't think I was over 21 guys!

Hiking
I recently took a hike up Stone Mountain. I have always wanted to hike, but my vision of one was just exploring through nature. Lets just say I damn near needed a harness. No but from the bottom to the top was something to strive for. The more I hiked through those rocks and trees, the more I referenced it to life. I kept having to tell myself,

"Keep going, don't stop, you can rest when you get to the top"
"A body a rest tends to stay at rest"
"If you don't use it you'll lose it"

But my sisters and I kept it up, until we made it to the top. Once up there, I was able to see the city, it's so amazing. Going up and going down cleared my mind of any and all stress and worries. It cleared the clouds trying to block my dreams. 


Lastly,

Pool Hall
I'm not the best nor will I pretend to be, but my sisters and me had fun sucking together (lol)!
We got margaritas, danced, shot some pool and grabbed about 3 dozen hot wings, which by the way were FIRE. Big ups to Mr. Cues because I never had any chicken like it!


Often times I find myself feeling bad, and I have people to remind me, but doing things without being able to do something for or with Riley bothers me. But honestly, am I supposed to be moping? This move was to make moves, can't be still I need to keep moving. 

So to any mothers who may be going through something similar here are a few things to free your mind.
  1. Pamper yourself
    • hot bubble bath
    • pedicure
    • manicure
    • facial (Walmart & family dollar has them no more than $5)
    • wash & style your hair
    • dress up
    • take yourself to dinner
  2. Exercise(stress relief)
    • walk
    • hike
    • bike ride
    • yoga
  3. Adventure
    • take a car ride
    • walk in the park
    • hike
    • fish
  4. Network
    • Nothing like being surrounded with love, happiness, support & positivity
  5. Prepare
    • meditate
    • plan
    • execute
    • affirm
I'm thankful to have had my sisters there to bring light to my life in the midst of it trying to become my darkness. I hope you all enjoyed todays post and hope you'll tune in again!
until next time!!







  

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